Healing your Innermost Child
Your innermost child is your true self, and he or she exists, within the deepest crevice of your being. Remember who you were before the world forced you to conform with its ways. Can you recall the excitement you felt when you went to the park? How about when you played with your dog in the garden? Or on the beach with your siblings?
Were you worried about what was going to happen the next day? Did you brood on past experiences and allow them to colour the way you perceive the present?
No, you didn't...
The best way to heal your inner child is to fully embrace and your Childlike nature in the present moment. Let me make something crystal clear unto you, however, there is a massive difference between being Childlike and being childish.
To be childish is to be spoilt. Childish people always require circumstances to go the way they want them to. They don't trust in the natural way their life is unfolding and often throw a fit when things get even remotely challenging.
To be Childlike is to be Christlike. Think back again to when you were a whipper-snapper. I bet you can remember countless moments when you were so immersed in the present moment that you lost track of time. The old adage that 'time flies when you're having fun' comes to mind. This is our natural, Childlike, Christlike state, and the entire goal of the spiritual journey is to get back to who we were before society placed a blindfold over our eyes!
The more you're in your Childlike state, fully embracing and trusting in the synchronization of all your life's events, the more natural it will become to you. The more you focus on embodying your ever-new, Childlike self, the more your Childish self dissolves.
Every negative state you feel is generated by negative beliefs. It's impossible to feel any form of fear without believing something to be true. Be fully present with your fear. Accept the baggage which arises from your unconscious to be dealt with. Awareness of these beliefs is the key to dissolving the behaviour which pertains to them.
(For more on becoming conscious of the conditioned self, please check out my book, The Labyrinth: Rewiring the Nodes in the Maze of your Mind).
Love your childish self. When you feel pain or fear, close your eyes and imagine your inner child sitting before you. Hug them. Tell them how much you love them. Tell them that you fully accept them regardless of what others think about you.
Our deepest wounds occur during the first seven years of our lives. Most of our conditioning happens then as our brain is in a different brainwave state during this period of our life. Theta brainwaves are hypnotic; in this state, we learn and absorb beliefs, attitudes and behaviours simply by observing others!
Paradoxically, it's only through observing ourselves do we discover true freedom; become more mindful of your conditioned self.